Updated: Aug 29
Life is a pathway that leads us into the unknown. We don't know where our lives will take us, or who we will meet along the way. We don't always know what will happen next, or what we should be doing.
When you feel like you have lost yourself, or lost your direction, it is time for some introspection so that you can come back to yourself, to your heart, and to your values.
So often in life we get stuck in this rut of doing things just because it is what everyone else is doing. So you need to ask yourself, is everyone else happy? Are the people that you are emulating 'making it?'
If the answer is no, if you aren't following people who are crushing their goals and winning at life, then you need to stop following their path.
When you follow a path that is laid by miserable people, how can you help end up anything but miserable?
Follow your heart
Your heart has the truest answers for your life. It holds all of your beliefs, your values, your goals and your dreams.
You know yourself better than anyone else ever can.
When you choose your own direction through life with intention, then you will be truly following your heart. You will be making the choices that feed your soul and bring you happiness. You will stop selling yourself short.
According to Lifehack, here are five reasons why you should follow your heart:
The World Needs Your Voice
People Want Your Unique Work
Know Where Your Heart Is
There’s a Whole World to Explore
You Will Inspire Others
When you are being true to yourself, and following your heart, this is when you are truly your best self. This is when you are your most authentic self. It is when you are at your best physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
You have unique and beautiful talents and insights to offer the world. This will allow you to unfold into your best and brightest self, and to be best able to help others that you meet along the path.
Your life belongs to you
Your life doesn't belong to your kids, your partner, your parents or your friends. Though all of these people are with you along the way, ultimately, you decide your own life and your own future.
Taking other people's input is important, however, you can't let other people's thoughts and ideas become the be-all, end-all of your life. What is right for someone else might not be right for you. And, allowing other people to make your choices for you is just going to wind up with you being miserable and resentful.
Make sure that you are taking time to listen to your own heart, your own thoughts, and your own voice.
You can tune into your voice through practices like:
Spending time in nature
All of these will help you to quiet your mind, so that you are seeing things as they truly are. This will allow you to find the stillness inside yourself where the answers to your life live.
Once you know what you truly want, who you truly are, and what truly matters to you, then you will be able to find the right direction for your life.
Healing yourself and your life takes time, because there is so much social conditioning that we have grown up with that needs to be shed. We take so many lessons from life that turn out to be wrong over time.
Not every lesson is going to resonate with every person. You need to find a truth that resonates with you, and follow that direction. Even if it seems insane at times to carve a new path into the unknown.
Remember, even when we think we know what is coming next on a scripted path through life, there are always surprises. We never truly know what is going to happen. It doesn't matter if you take the conventional path, or a road less traveled, there will still always be surprises.
So, choose a path that is right for you.
Choose something that aligns with your soul, with your values, and with your purpose. This way, you will be living always as authentically yourself. You will be living with intention, with love, and with trust in yourself.
This way, a bright shining, beautiful life full of purpose will stretch out before you. Trust in yourself, and the answers that you have found in silence to determine your direction and your course through life.