As moms, we have busy, hectic schedules. You probably ask yourself when you will ever get a chance to slow down and get some rest. With little people those plans often go astray, and we find ourselves making a peanut butter sandwich instead of getting a facial.
Do you feel like things are always moving at such a fast pace that you will never possibly get any time to yourself?
Are you tired, and wanting to slow down? To take a breather from all your responsibilities?
If you find yourself having thoughts like this often, it may be time to really slow down and take some time for Mindfulness.
What is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness has two aspects to it: being present, and non-judgement. When we are fully present in the moment, we see things exactly as they are. We don't think of them as being good or bad, we see the beauty in everything. Mindfulness is seeing everything with new eyes, like a child, for the first time.
When we allow ourselves to be mindfully present, we can experience the world more fully. It helps us to be better parents, because we are fully present with our children, without our thoughts wandering off. We pay more attention to them and cultivate our parenting relationship more fully.
When we are more present in each moment of the day, it suddenly feels like we do have more time, because we aren't constantly distracted.
So, in moments when you want to be more mindful, you can focus on one of these mindfulness quotes. Then, focus on being completely present with what you are doing right now.
Don't think about the past or worry about the future. Just be fully present right where you are, with what you are doing.
Taking these mindful moments throughout the day helps you to center and refocus your energy. Back to yourself. Back to your kids. Back to the task at hand.
I have found when I apply this principle in my daily life, it helps me to be more mindful and at peace in my daily life.
"Visualize your highest self and start showing up as him/her." - Ali Owens
Think about your highest, best self. How does she feel? How does she act? What does she do?
Whatever those qualities that you want to have, start acting as if you have them already. If you want to be more brave, do things that scare you. If you want to be more kind, then act with kindness.
“Wherever you are, be there totally.” — Eckhart Tolle
This captures the essence of Mindfulness in one line. Be totally immersed in the present moment, no matter where you are or where you are doing.
The more conscious you are of where you are, the less stress you will feel. And, when you feel the stress returning, ask yourself: have you been thinking about the past or the future? That is where stress usually comes from.
There is no stress when we are completely in the moment, simply acceptance. Learn to live mindfully present in the moment, and your stress will begin to melt away.
Having less stress helps us to enjoy our lives more, and be more calm and patient as parents.
“Mindfulness gives you time. Time gives you choices. Choices, skillfully made, lead to freedom.” — Bhante Henepola Gunaratana
Mindfulness allows you to be completely present and aware in each moment of your day. This allows you to consciously decide what you will do in this endless now.
If you just focus on making each moment its best, then you will make better choices. You will be more intentional.
An intentional life is a life of choice and freedom. It is a life where we don't feel like we "have to" do things that we are being forced by outside forces to do. It is a life where we decide what we will do, and how we will do it.
When we start from a place of peace and silence, we find better answers than when we are constantly stressed out, and in a hurry to go from one thing to the next without appreciating where we are.
“Life is a dance. Mindfulness is witnessing that dance.” — Amit Ray
Life, in all its glory, is beautiful. It is in a constant state of unfolding, beautifully and perfectly.
When we really are mindfully present, we allow ourselves to watch life's natural unfolding. As parents, being mindful often means watching our kids, being fully present with them. Kids love to dance. Watch them and learn from them.
Kids are unusually mindful already. Watch the way they notice a beautiful butterfly, a tiny shell, or an odd shaped rock. They are completely present in their environment, and noticing things with curiosity.
By paying closer attention to our kids, to the way they look at things, we become more mindful and peaceful ourselves.
If you ever need some inspiration, just put on some music and let your kids dance. Then, you are seeing the real joy that runs through all life.
“How we pay attention to the present moment largely determines the character of our experience, and therefore, the quality of our lives.” — Sam Harris
When we aren't present in the moment, we aren't enjoying our experience. We are simply doing things half asleep without paying attention to them.
The best day of your life means little, if your mind has already jumped ahead to something else. Your mind creates your reality, and the reality is, that you create your present moment. You can enjoy it more when you are mindfully present.
Taste every bite of your delicious food. Listen to every cute word that your kids say. Read every page of that book. Being immersed in the activity makes it better, it makes the colors brighter, and the smells sweeter.
Once you have learned to be more mindful throughout each day, it helps to enrich your experience of life. Hopefully these quotes can bring you back to where you are each time your mind strays.
Find one of these quotes that resonates with you and write it down. It can be in your journal or on a note card that you keep with you. Then, you can come back to the quote each time you need to feel more mindful. Eventually, you won't even need to look at it written down, you will remember it well enough to mentally refocus.
The more mindful you are yourself, the better your experience of motherhood will be. You can also set an example of mindfulness for your kids to follow, so they don't grow up living stressed-out lives.
To help you teach your kids about mindfulness, here are some Mindfulness for kids activities that you can use during the day.
Being a mindful mom helps you to be less overwhelmed and more focused throughout the day. This can help you to better handle the highs and lows of parenthood.
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