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About Me

Hi, I am Nicole, one of the oldest Millennial Mom's, some would call me Xennial, since I was born in 1982.  (I'm about to turn 40 next year?!)  

I am a blogger and author of "Trauma Survivor's Guide to Coping With Panic Attacks" and "Happy. Healthy. Rich.  The smart mom's guide to living your best life."

 

I am a proud mom to my two girls, Atlantis (19) and River(5), as well as my plus one child, Atlantis's Partner Phyre (18).  I share my life with my wonderful partner, Gary. 

Even though I am grateful for a beautiful life, I have been through the rain and the down times too.  I have PTSD, Anxiety and Depression.  They are managed for now, but all of them are lifelong conditions that I have to keep under control.

Since I am interested in Mental Health Issues, I obtained a BA in Psychology from University of Colorado in 2008.

About the Blog:

 

This is both a Motherhood Blog, and Healthy Lifestyle Blog.  I believe that our own health and happiness is intertwined with our parenting.  Taking care of ourselves so that we can be at our best helps us to be happier moms, and better parents overall.  It is hard to provide for our kids in the best way possible when we are feeling depleted.

 

Sometimes, I blog about self-care and mental health and wellness.  This is a topic that is close to my heart, and I want to help raise awareness about mental health issues.  I share quite a bit of my own mental health journey on the blog.

My parenting style is Attachment Parenting, and I focus on whole-child wellness,  and communication with children in a responsive and non-violent way.  I advocate for patience and empathy with our kiddos.

Besides that, I also provide some shopping hacks, personal finance information, and product reviews.  In many research studies, finance is listed as one of most people's top worries.  If we can help to alleviate some of the stress about money, that contributes to our family's overall wellness too!

I chose the tagline "Mom Life Gets Messy" because I think all too often as moms there is this societal expectation that we can do everything flawlessly, and that is seldom (if ever) the case.  Real life is messy, it is flawed, my house is usually covered with glitter or popcorn crumbs no matter how much I vacuum, and I have to balance the expectations of being a full-time mom, and having a full time job.  That is the case for so many of us!

In life, when we expect perfection, we are almost always disappointed.  When we can embrace the mess, enjoy the journey, accept ourselves today while striving for a better tomorrow, we create a much happier and more whole life.  Perfection doesn't need to be our end goal.  

"Perfect is the enemy of good."

When we strive for perfection, we often miss just how good our lives our right now.  We are too busy fixating on InstaMom's perfect hair and perfect children to embrace the wonder that is the life we have with our families right now.  We can have good and fulfilling lives when we drop the expectation of perfect!  Accepting and embracing the good that comes with the mess allows us to flourish and live our best lives.  And yes, sometimes we are going to be living our best lives wearing a too-small tiara while dancing to Elsa singing "Let it Go" in the kitchen for the 30th time in one day.

Embrace the moment, dance the wild dance in your heart, and always be there to straighten another mom's too-small tiara.

 

About Our Family:

You may wonder how I managed to have two kids so far apart, well like so many American families today, ours is a blended family.  After my divorce from Atlantis's dad 10 years ago, I met Gary.  We bought a house together and blended our lives.  Then, we had River, our wonderful little wild child.  A few months ago, we blended our family again when Phyre moved in after High School Graduation.

When we bought our house, Gary and I decided that this was going to be our safe space, where everyone is free to be themselves.  This was especially important for me, since I have PTSD, and safety is huge!  Gary has done some awesome home remodeling to make the place really feel like our dream home!

Since I am now the mom to an adult and a toddler, I have experienced quite a few different aspects of motherhood over the years.  First, I was a young mom in my 20's, working and putting my way through college.  Then, I became an older mom in my 30's, trying to keep up with a little one again.  There are advantages to being a young mom, and to being an older mom.  I have experienced both, so I have somewhat of a unique perspective.

Also, I know that when you add another baby to your family, it makes a big change to the dynamic of the family overall.  Our little one really does bring our whole family together, and makes our life complete.  She brings us together, makes us laugh, and constantly is surprising us!

Having teens/ young adults in the house is eventful too, with their packed schedules.  Luckily, our two have both done well in school and are responsible with their jobs.  They also make time for family time, and play with River too.

You may find us in the summer spending lazy days by the pool, or in the winter curled up with a good movie trilogy.  The kids also enjoy a variety of arts and crafts, make up and cosplay, and all types of games.

 

You can never have too many mom friends, and I hope I can be a mom friend for you too!  We live in a day and age when our village has become more virtual, and connecting with other moms online is a big way to expand our village, because it really does take a village to raise a child!

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