Making Hard Decisions
Updated: Feb 7
Every day, we are faced with decisions that we have to make. Some big, some small. And even the smallest decisions can be anxiety producing at times. This can be especially true if you have mental health issues.
It can be a decision about something like a move, your relationship, what to major in for college, a career change, or anything else that you feel will deeply effect your future.
Even if it seems like a decision needs to be made immediately, this is rarely the case. We live in a fast-paced world with emails and text messages coming in constantly. This can make us feel like we have to reply right away.
However, it is ok to take some time before replying or making a decision. Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, we will make a snap decision that ends up being the wrong one. So it is important to give yourself time before you decide.
You don't need to decide right now. You can take some time and think things through. This can allow you to do a pros and cons list, or another decision making strategy that allows you to think things through more clearly.
If you are feeling anxious about a decision that you have to make, it is best to take some time to calm down first, before you have to decide. This way you can have a clear head when you do decide. Taking time for yourself can help you find a sense of calm.
You can take some deep breaths, or go for a walk outside. That way, you can get some air and regulate your breathing. This allows you to feel a lot more calm about what is going on.
Also, you can take some time to talk things through with someone you trust before making a decision. This can be a friend, family member, therapist or coach. Having some input from someone else can help you to see your choices more clearly sometimes.
Another way to work through a decision is to do a journaling session. When you write things down, it can allow you to look at a situation from different angles, and to get all your feelings out. That way, you can completely work through your thoughts.
If you are struggling to decide, it is ok to give yourself time. Always remember that. You don't have to respond quickly just because you got a text or an email. Slowing down can help you think through better and make a decision that is more aligned to your values.