Updated: Aug 3
Do you feel like something in your life is lacking? If you are mentally running on empty, then you need to take control of your destiny instead of just letting life happen to you.
Since from an evolutionary perspective, our brains are programmed for survival above all else, they have a natural negative bias we have to overcome in order to live happier and more fulfilling lives.
If you just let life play out and happen to you without becoming consciously aware of your thought patterns, then you are always going to see the glass as half-empty instead of half-full.
When good things happen, you will perk up a bit for a little while, but sooner or later the high wears off. The accomplishments fade.
Things don’t stay good forever.
Soon enough, you have forgotten the award you won, the thrill of your new relationship has worn off, and you have gotten used to the promotion you got at work.
All the accomplishments in the world aren’t enough to keep us happy indefinitely, because the high we get from them is short lived. Same thing with winning the lottery. Or getting married to your soulmate.
They can only make us happy for so long, because the dopamine high of having this shiny new object will wear off quickly.
This is the natural way that our minds work.
In order to take control of our lives, first we have to take control over our mindset. One way to do this is to rewire your brain for happiness using the Law of Attraction.
What is negative mental bias?
A negative mental bias is an idea in evolutionary psychology that people have a tendency to look for the negative in what is happening around them more than the positive. This is because our ancestors had to be constantly alert for danger back in the cave-man days.
Our brains still have the tendency to be constantly alert for danger, which means we will notice negative things more than positive ones.
According to The Decision Lab,
The negativity bias is a cognitive bias that results in adverse events having a more significant impact on our psychological state than positive events. Negativity bias occurs even when adverse events and positive events are of the same magnitude, meaning we feel negative events more intensely.
Have you ever noticed how your mind tends to dwell more on the bad things that happen to you throughout the day than on the good things?
This is the negativity bias at work.
What is the Law of Attraction?
The Law of Attraction is a new-age philosophy, where adherents believe whatever you think about will manifest in your life, good and bad. So, if you are thinking about good things, then good things will happen, but if you are thinking about bad things, then bad things will happen. According to Very Well Mind,
The law of attraction is a philosophy suggesting that positive thoughts bring positive results into a person’s life, while negative thoughts bring negative outcomes. It is based on the belief that thoughts are a form of energy and that positive energy attracts success in all areas of life, including health, finances, and relationships.
There are many ways that the Law of Attraction can help you in your daily life. It teaches us that the more we focus on the positive, the more positive things will happen in our lives.
There are three main principles that make up the Law of Attraction.
According to Very Well Mind,
Like attracts like: This law suggests that similar things are attracted to one another. It means that people tend to attract people who are similar to them — but it also suggests that people’s thoughts tend to attract similar results. Negative thinking is believed to attract negative experiences, while positive thinking is believed to produce desirable experiences.
Nature abhors a vacuum: This law of attraction suggests that removing negative things from your life can make space for more positive things to take their place. It is based on the notion that it is impossible to have a completely empty space in your mind and in your life. Since something will always fill this space, it is important to fill that space with positivity, proponents of this philosophy say.
The present is always perfect: This law focuses on the idea that there are always things you can do to improve the present moment. While it might always seem like the present is somehow flawed, this law proposes that, rather than feeling dread or unhappiness, you should focus your energy on finding ways to make the present moment the best that it can be.
The more positive your thinking is, the more positive things you will find to fill your life with.
Each day is essentially a blank slate, and you choose what to do with it. The Law of Attraction tells us that what we focus on is what is going to happen. This gives people choice and agency over their lives.
Applying the Law of Attraction
To apply the Law of Attraction in your life, you start by being aware of your mental patterns, and where your thoughts are focusing.
You can use Law of Attraction meditations, affirmations, and do positive journaling sessions with a positive vision of your life in mind. There are also quite a few books available to explain the Law of Attraction in more detail.
Using visualization, you can start your day by visualizing all the good things that are going to happen to you. Visualize everything in your day going right. This will set you up for success as you go through the day.
The more you get used to thinking positively, the more your mind will start to gravitate towards positive thinking instead of its natural, negative thinking. If you see yourself starting to slide back into negative thinking, then go back to your positive affirmations and your positive vision of yourself and your life. By being aware of our thoughts, we can take control of our minds and consciously input more positive thoughts into our day.
Another way I like to do this is by having positive sayings all around my house. No matter which room I go into, there is a poster or sign with a positive saying readily available for me to look at. This helps to create a more positive focus for me, no matter what I am doing throughout the day.
As you learn to use the Law of Attraction for yourself, you can more consistently be in a more positive mental space. This will help you live the life that you have always dreamed of.
According to Mind Body Green it is important to remember,
One of the keys to working with the law of attraction is understanding that thoughts also require action to bring them into reality. You cannot simply make a wish and do nothing — but rather take actionable steps to work toward your goal. (Which means living in alignment with that goal through your choices and behavior.)
As you are using the Law of Attraction to mentally manifest goodness into your life, you will also set goals to work towards to make all of your dreams into a reality.
Law of Attraction isn’t magic. Making your dreams come true still takes hard work. It is just that your hard work is likely to take you farther if you have a positive mindset, it will make you less likely to give up when things inevitably get difficult.
Maintaining a positive mindset is key to creating a happier and more positive life! After all, what good is achieving your goals if you aren’t bothering to let yourself be happy about it?