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What are Twin Souls?

Have you ever met someone and instantly felt a connection with them, almost like you knew them before? Did you feel drawn to that person without really knowing why?

Many people think of the concept of twin souls (or twin flames, as they are sometimes called) in a romantic sense. However, it isn't always a romantic attraction that brings twins together. It can be a shared sense of purpose and spiritual growth that brings twin souls to find each other.

Your twin soul is like a mirror soul. They help you see yourself more clearly, by reflecting a clearer view of yourself back to you.

It is often believed that twin souls are two halves of one soul, inhabiting two different bodies. So, when you meet your twin, it can feel like "coming home" in a way.

According to Lone Wolf,

The concept of having a “Twin Flame” originated in Plato’s mythic dialogue entitled “The Symposium” which wrote that human beings originally had two faces, four arms, and four legs. Under the threat of being overpowered, the gods split them in half, creating the humans we see today. Hence, it is thought that we all have one “twin” soul out there in the world.

In today's modern culture, often people find themselves feeling what they think of as an intense romantic attraction to their twin soul. It can often be a very intense relationship that pushes you in ways you had never thought possible.

However, I would argue that we aren't really "in love" with our twins in the way we usually think of that word. What happens is that the twin helps us awake to our own inner nature of pure, perfect love. Finding your twin is a reminder that love is the true essence of our being, and we can see that love reflected back through their eyes.

According to MBG Relationships,

According to Spinelli, although twin flames are typically viewed as romantic relationships, they can also be platonic soul mates. "The emphasis on a twin flame relationship is a spiritual connection where you feel a familiarity and polarity with a person. This can take the form of a friend or even an acquaintance," she says. In most cases, though, romance seems to be more common.

When you find your twin soul or twin flame, it is easy to become caught up in them, and in the intense feelings that you have around them. It is important to be aware that this is happening, and not let it distract you too much from your true purpose in finding them. It might feel like love at first sight, but it is something deeper than that.

According to Master Class, here are some signs that you may have met your twin flame:

  1. 1. You gravitate toward this person. You will feel a great pull toward this person, either romantic or platonic.

  2. 2. You recognize this person. Typically, a sudden recognition occurs upon meeting a twin flame. You realize this person shares your specific traits, good or bad, and those commonalities form a bond. Often, twin flames feel as if they have met before or have always known each other.

  3. 3. You share a worldview with this person. Twin flames share your worldview, making them very easy to be around—something you may notice even the first time you meet this person.

As we become aware of all the mysterious signs and coincidences surrounding this relationship, we may become more aware of the mysterious nature of the universe itself. However, if you are focused solely on a relationship with your twin, you might be missing out on important messages that you can learn about yourself and your spirituality.

Beware of twins turning toxic

Since the twin soul connection can be so intense and overpowering in many ways, at times the relationship between the two people can turn toxic. There are many stories of one twin being a "runner" and the other being a "chaser" which can be an incredibly unhealthy dynamic to allow yourself to get into.

There is a typical cycle to twin soul relationships, where you have this intense meeting, and then for some reason or another you are separated, in which time one person may run and the other may chase. When this happens, it can quickly enter into an unhealthy cycle.

According to MBG Relationships, the stages of a twin soul relationship are:

  1. Yearning

  2. Meeting

  3. The Honeymoon Phase

  4. Challenges Emerge

  5. The test

  6. The chase

  7. The surrender

  8. Coming home

It is important to remember that, no matter what type of relationship you have with someone (Twin Soul, Twin Flame, Soulmate or something else) you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. If you feel someone isn't treating you this way, if they disregard your boundaries, or seem to be obsessed with you, it is not a healthy relationship.

Look at what the relationship is trying to teach you about yourself. If it is unhealthy, it is alright to walk away. I have heard a lot of people trying to force relationships that they think of as twin souls or soulmates, and forcing a romantic relationship with anyone is never the right thing to do, regardless of your past history.

When you allow yourself to think that a romantic relationship with your twin is 'more important' than any other type of relationship, then you have missed the point of finding your twin. It isn't a romantic fairytale with a happy ending, it is a step on your journey to finding your life purpose.

Twins are meant to inspire us

When you meet your twin soul in this lifetime, it means you are ready for a jump in your spiritual development. You can help to raise each other's energy, and become the best people that you can be.

As with each person that comes into our lives, twin souls can teach us about new perspectives on the world and ourselves. A twin can help you find a sense of self-validation and acceptance.

Having someone see you as you truly are is a truly meaningful experience in a world where superficial relationships can be the norm. Learning to connect with someone on a deeper level can teach you important lessons about trust, communication, spirituality and healing.

When you meet someone you think is your twin soul, it is ok to ask them if they think so too. You may share unique perspectives and experiences with your twin, and come to know more about your own true nature as you do.

Meeting a twin soul can be a deeply mystical experience, filled with seeming coincidences in the forms of signs or synchronicities. This meeting can create a new awareness to look for signs from the universe that you are on the right path. It can help you to become more aware of the deeper level to life than what you have experienced before.

Twins across lifetimes

If you and your twin separate after a time because things don't work out the way you want them to in the moment, you may not always reunite in this lifetime. This can be a sign that one or both of you hasn't done the self-work that was needed. Or, it can be that time and circumstances intervene and force you apart.

A big part of the twin soul connection is a shared belief that you two knew each other in a previous life, or lives. Because of this, you need to remember that your soul's timeline is much longer than the one life you are living now. Souls can evolve for thousands of years.

When someone really is your twin, you can find them again in another lifetime, even if they have passed from this one. It is normal to feel a sense of heartbreak and loss if you are separated from your twin, but it is important not to let yourself become immersed completely in the sadness. You can still bounce back. You can still be whole.

Just because you have a twin, it doesn't mean that you aren't a 'whole person' on your own. Everyone is a whole person, capable of living life on their own. Eventually, you will be able to mourn, to grieve, and to move on.

I found my twin soul years ago, and even though we aren't in each other's lives anymore, I have faith that someday, when the time is right, we will meet again. Older, and hopefully wiser this time.

Have you met your twin soul? What was it like for you? Let me know in the comments!


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